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“Why am I getting up on Sunday mornings, the one morning that I can sleep in?” she asked herself. When her mother, father and grandmother all died in the same year, she stopped going altogether – not because she was angry at God, but because she felt nothing there at all. While she attended church until the age of 35, she never felt fully subscribed to Christianity or beholden to its rules. The resulting collection is so astute on the particular kind of sexual shame that strict religious teaching can cause that I’m surprised when Philyaw tells me she “didn’t have that kind of baggage” herself. The men in this book are like garnish: they’re on the plate, but they’re not the meal It was only when her agent started to refer to them as “church lady stories” that she realised she had been subconsciously zooming in on the questions of her childhood.
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Philyaw had written short fiction in response to competitions and call-outs and hadn’t noticed that her stories tended to share a common theme. It was during a break from the difficult work of novel writing that Church Ladies started to come together. Writing Co-Parenting 101 landed Philyaw an agent, bringing her dream of having a novel published one step closer. Friends had dubbed the pair the “poster children for divorce” because of the way they handled their parenting responsibilities after separating, and the book grew from there. While she was trying to write a novel, her first published book was a co-parenting guide that she wrote with her ex-husband, a project that came about almost by accident.
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In 2005 she tentatively decided to try to make a living from her hobby. But when Philyaw and her then-husband decided to have children, she gave up teaching to stay at home with her eldest daughter, and started writing “just to do something that was stimulating for myself”. So she went to Yale, got a degree in economics, and initially worked as a management consultant (“I cried every day for months”) before retraining as a teacher, a job she “absolutely loved”. If she’d told her family she had literary ambitions, she says, “I might as well have said I want to be Michael Jackson”. As a first-generation university student, Philyaw was “aiming to go to college and do something practical and make a lot of money”. She hadn’t always wanted to be a writer, I learn. Philyaw and I are speaking over video call: me in London, mortified to find I’ve got the writer up at 6am her in Pittsburgh, serene and cheerful, insisting that she is usually awake at this time anyway. There’s Eula, who insists on “saving herself” for marriage to a man, but happily celebrates her birthday each year by having sex with her female best friend there’s an unnamed bakery owner, implied to be an older Olivia from Peach Cobbler, who provides married men with a set of instructions before they begin an affair with her and there’s Lyra, who is forced to address the shame she feels around sex when she falls in love at the age of 42. The characters in Church Ladies, which has picked up a National Book Award nomination and won the PEN/Faulkner award, the LA Times book prize and The Story Prize in the US prior to its UK release this week, respond in different ways. The Secret Lives of Church Ladies by Deesha Philyaw.